dear lens
only IMHO
when considering oil for your engine first point is location, NJ is new jersey ? so, what is the temperature ratio from winter to summer in the conditions that you use the car ? other way to put it, your coldest cold start is at ... (Celsius please) ?
if your coldest start is at 10 deg celsius you will have no problems even with oils like 15 or 10w40
the second point is in what condition is your engine: do not know, fair, just renewed,...if it is in poor condition synthetic and mineral, both will leak, if it is in good condition then you will have no problems, leakage is not about tolerances, it is about mechanical condition, the great tierfreund said once that our engines are not old engines, but pretty modern ones
i would say a semisynth will do the job,
and please, i know that everybody loves aditives, but just do not use them ! refrain from using aditives, there is a key reason for that, you are not a chemist, and the oil that you will buy will not declare which aditives are included already, that makes any chemist hobbist a dangerous man for his engine
additionally, forget about zddp, crucial for british classic cars but not for our bmws, i will give you something to read about this if i can find it again !